直到读了瓦伦蒂这本《上葡京官网:正面全裸的女权主义》,(部分翻译仅凭个人感觉

女权主义者的性欲观(读书笔记:杰茜卡瓦伦蒂:《正面全裸的女权主义》)我一直以为,女权主义者都是些身穿男性西装剪着男人发型叼着香烟不刮腋毛的中性人,直到读了瓦伦蒂这本《正面全裸的女权主义》。现在才明白过来,原来女权主义者也是有七情六欲的!不仅如此,她们的欲望比普通女性更直白,更强势,更利己。瓦伦蒂用了整整一个章节来阐述女权主义的性欲观。标题是《女权主义者更擅长干那事(以及其它关于性的提示)FEMINISTS
DO IT BETTER (AND OTHER SEX
TIPS)》。她开宗明义就自我标榜“我在床上比你行,而这得归功于女权主义。”(I’m
better in bed than you are. And I have feminism to thank for
it.)现代男权社会对女人有一种自相矛盾的双重标准:一方面,女人在白天接受“守贞教育”,晚上则在电视上看到“女孩也疯狂”的广告。一方面,女孩被教导说婚前性行为是不对的,另一方面又告诉你,你若想成为一名春假辣妹,你赶紧对着镜头宽衣解带吧!(When
you’re getting abstinence-only education during the day and Girls Gone
Wild commercials at night, it’s not exactly easy to develop a healthy
sexuality. You’re taught that sex before marriage is bad bad bad, but
that if you want to be a springbreak hottie, you’d better start making
out for the
camera.)守贞教育家是这么来教育女孩子的:“你们的身体就是一根棒棒糖。当你们与男人发生性关系时,他剥去你的糖衣,含吮起来。当时可能感觉不错,可遗憾的是,他与你完事后,你们留给下一位伴侣的就是衣冠不整,口水臭味的残渣。”(“Your
body is a wrapped lollipop. When you have sex with a man, he unwraps
your lollipop and sucks on it. It may feel great at the time, but
unfortunately, when he’s done with you, all you have left for your next
partner is a poorly wrapped, saliva-fouled sucker.
“)够耸人听闻的。不过女权主义者不吃这一套。瓦伦蒂提出的口号是:“我的处女膜我做主!(Our
Hymens, Ourselves
)”她说:“我从未闹明白处女贞操有什么大不了,真的。我的贞操在中学时代就被一名男朋友没怎么费劲就夺去了。我们后来还约会了好几年呢。我还以为会有什么异样的感觉呢,没有。我总觉得这种把处女贞操当成如花似玉一回事很愚蠢。所以你可以想象,当我发现自己原来是被用过即弃的垃圾时有多愕然。”(I
have never really understood what the big deal was about virginity.
Really. Mine was lost without a great deal of fanfare to a high school
boyfriend whom I dated for several years afterward. I expected to feel
different—I didn’t. The whole precious-flower-virginity thing always
seemed silly to me. So imagine my surprise when I found out that I was
just a used-up piece of trash without
it.)我比较纳闷的是,女权主义者总体上是鄙夷男人的。可是在处理自己的情欲时,她们对男人的态度显然又是另一番风景。诚然,她们与男人上床,再也不是为了讨好男人,更不是为了繁衍后代,而纯粹是为了自己的愉悦。用瓦伦蒂露骨的话,就是:一边做女权主义者,一边啪啪啪!(f***ing
while feminist
!)只是,面对一位性欲如此高涨态度如此强势的女权主义床伴,哪一位小男人消受得起?

守贞教育家是这么来教育女孩子的:“你们的身体就是一根棒棒糖。当你们与男人发生性关系时,他剥去你的糖衣,含吮起来。当时可能感觉不错,可遗憾的是,他与你完事后,你们留给下一位伴侣的就是衣冠不整,口水臭味的残渣。”(“Your
body is a wrapped lollipop. When you have sex with a man, he unwraps
your lollipop and sucks on it. It may feel great at the time, but
unfortunately, when he’s done with you, all you have left for your next
partner is a poorly wrapped, saliva-fouled sucker. “)

And the people one meets at the top aren’t necessarily more special
than those one meets at the bottom or in between.

About that Indian boy,I know him earlier than you.So it happened long
time ago.And if you don’t like Indian people ,I won’t talk with any
Indian people.It is not a big deal.I respect you.

Dear fellow toaster masters. How many times your resume was rejected?
What’s the main reason? Several months ago. After paying my tmc fees. I
have no money to buy something on November 11. my poor pockets. And  So
i made a big decision. Change the job. Then i refreshed resume. Borrowed
technical books. One day i Received an interview call. The lady said. Do
you want to change your job? I said. Yes. Can you tell me your excepted
salary? So open. I like. You must know the standards. So you made. When
i heart the salary i wes suprised. Then pretend so calm to answer any
questions. In the end. He Said: last but not least. When will you want a
baby? So straight. I don’t like now. Maybe this year. Then we close this
interview conversation as soon as possible. after that. All the
interviews were interrupted by the same question.

我比较纳闷的是,女权主义者总体上是鄙夷男人的。可是在处理自己的情欲时,她们对男人的态度显然又是另一番风景。诚然,她们与男人上床,再也不是为了讨好男人,更不是为了繁衍后代,而纯粹是为了自己的愉悦。用瓦伦蒂露骨的话,就是:一边做女权主义者,一边啪啪啪!(Fucking
while feminist !)

(之前遇到的问题,使用已经学到的原则)


Third is psychology. What if you are Human Resources. What if you need
select 30 best from 300 thousands graduates quickly? Maybe you have the
same solution. In order to choose the best. So if you are refused. Just
means you are not best. No discrimination. It’s just a rule. Have you
ever doubt your abilities when you are refused? It’s not excellent is
true. But we should comfort ourselves like a great friend. Not too harsh
and strict.Then we became confident to embrace discrimination. We will
be rational to deal anything. Trust ourselves. yes we can. If you
Failed.just try one more time. Like me never get best prepared speaker
in our club. But I insist on trying. Maybe in the future I will will be
the best. It doesn’t matter. Trying one more time can make me more
brave.  growth needs try one more time. Maybe you will reach your goal. 
Like yuminhong. 25 times worst loving experience. 3 times failures in
college entrance examinations. But embrace discrimination made him
entering peak university. And be the CEO of Xindongfang. We can say.
Dream it. And get it. Un

”她说:“我从未闹明白处女贞操有什么大不了,真的。我的贞操在中学时代就被一名男朋友没怎么费劲就夺去了。我们后来还约会了好几年呢。我还以为会有什么异样的感觉呢,没有。我总觉得这种把处女贞操当成如花似玉一回事很愚蠢。所以你可以想象,当我发现自己原来是被用过即弃的垃圾(或棒棒糖)时有多愕然。”(I
have never really understood what the big deal was about virginity.
Really. Mine was lost without a great deal of fanfare to a high school
boyfriend whom I dated for several years afterward. I expected to feel
different—I didn’t. The whole precious-flower-virginity thing always
seemed silly to me. So imagine my surprise when I found out that I was
just a used-up piece of trash (or candy) without it.)

(部分翻译仅凭个人感觉,不完全按照原文翻译)

After my ex boy friend broke up with me .It hurt me a lot.I suffered the
depression.My families still don’t know nowdays.A lot of times I
wanted to kill myself.In a snow night,I went outside feeling nothing is
worth to make me stay and wanted to end my life.When I walked down the
road to a streetlight,I found an amazing scene.It looked so beautiful
that the snowflakes were flying under the light.It is the most
beautiful thing in the world at that time.
I want to say it saved my
life .I told my myself,” as long as there are still beautiful thing
existing,even if there is only one,It’s worth keeping me living in this
world.
“So I didn’t do that stupid thing.

I did some research to persuade myself. Then I found It’s no need to
have these negative feelings. Be refused by Discrimination is a common
thing. If we embrace discrimination. We’ll live better. i will share
with you three books.

现代男权社会对女人有一种自相矛盾的双重标准:一方面,女人在白天接受“守贞教育”,晚上则在电视上看到“女孩也疯狂”的广告。一方面,女孩被教导说婚前性行为是不对的,另一方面又告诉你,你若想成为一名春假辣妹,你赶紧对着镜头宽衣解带吧!(When
you’re getting abstinence-only education during the day and Girls Gone
Wild commercials at night, it’s not exactly easy to develop a healthy
sexuality. You’re taught that sex before marriage is bad bad bad, but
that if you want to be a springbreak hottie, you’d better start making
out for the camera.)

In my early years, I looked up to extraordinarily successful people,
thinking that they were successful because they were extraordinary.
After I got to know such people personally, I realized that all of
them—like me, like everyone—make mistakes, struggle with their
weaknesses, and don’t feel that they are particularly special or great.
They are no happier than the rest of us, and they struggle just as much
or more than average folks. Even after they surpass their wildest
dreams, they still experience more struggle than glory. This has
certainly been true for me.

When the first time I saw you ,you attracted me .When you smiled to
me ,I was thinking ,”oh my god ,you are so beautiful.”You look like an
angel.Everything around you is shining.And your smile looks so
beautiful .My heart is dark and damp .My world is full of darkness.But
you are the light ,you can dispel all the darkness in my world and
bring light .You look sunshine.When I saw you ,I saw the bright.You
can save my world.You are the”snowflake”.In my eyes,you the most
beautiful in this world.
And after talking with you in the video call
,more confirmed my thought.I think the reason is your character
.Your body can give out the light. I have never seen a boy like you
.You are so soft sometimes look cute.When I was looking at you,I feel
you like soft cotton and i want to hug you tightly.

I don’t want you to leave me.My thinking is a little selfish.But
this is how I feel.
Because you are the only light in my dark
life.None could do that .But you make it.You make me feel safe and
hopeful.Every time you were angry with me and going to delete me,I was
always scary.I was afraid that you would leave me.It felt like I was
going to lose something improtant.

First is economics. Depends on the common theory of economics. All the
discrimination in recruitment is just unbalance between requirements and
supplements. It means 300 thousands.  graduates Just 30 jobs vacancies.
Its like if you show love to the goddess but be refused. It’s so common.
Goddess just only one. However your competitors are too more.

只是,面对一位性欲如此高涨态度如此强势的女权主义床伴,哪一位小男人消受得起?

In gaining this perspective, I began to experience painful moments in a
radically different way. Instead of feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, I
saw pain as nature’s reminder that there is something important for me
to learn. Encountering pains and figuring out the lessons they were
trying to give me became sort of a game to me.

Forgive my sensitive.

I was angry. Depressed for a long time. Then I found It was so common in
any recruitment information. We were refused Again and again. The Human
Resources said. We need have a famous university education background.
985 211 postgraduate or doctors.  They said. You never met female
engineers. All right? So sorry.they also said we dont need male nurse.
So sorry. Too fat. So ugly of your resume. We need long leg.all the bias
keep some excellent person out the door. Then they are depressed and not
confident even they begin to doubt their abilities.ba afraid of trying
one more time. Did you have the same feelings before?

她开宗明义就自我标榜“我在床上比你行,而这得归功于女权主义。”(I’m better
in bed than you are. And I have feminism to thank for it.)

The marginal benefits of having more fall off pretty quickly. In fact,
having a lot more is worse than having a moderate amount more because it
comes with heavy burdens. Being on top gives you a wider range of
options, but it also requires more of you. Being well-known is probably
worse than being anonymous, all things considered. And while the
beneficial impact one can have on others is great, when you put it in
perspective, it is still infinitesimally small. For all those reasons, I
cannot say that having an intense life filled with accomplishments is
better than having a relaxed life filled with savoring, though I can say
that being strong is better than being weak, and that struggling gives
one strength.


Second is history. Elite university found great job, and non-elite
university was refused.those poor guys didn’t get great better career
path, really?  Let’s look at this picture. Ten years ago, most graduates
from 985 211 got the offer of ericson a famous international mobile
phone enterprise. It’s champagne in the international position. Like
apple today. But the other graduates not in 985.211 entered alibaba
which main business is selling shoots. Times went on. Alobaba is an
ideal company. Now all the 985 211 joined BAT, you are refused. It
doesn’t mean you are loser. You also have the chance to live better. I
remember one sentences. Nothing is so bad but might be a blessing. it’s
wisdom. So Embrace discrimination is what we can do best.

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